I was on a call with a bunch of really fantastic coaches, and we were all talking about our various responses to what’s going on right now. There’s no right or wrong way to deal with this unprecedented experience that we’re all going through. But what really struck me was there was this word that kept getting mentioned on our call: reset. Reset. This is an opportunity to reset.
I started to think about my own life and my response to what’s happening right now, which is oddly calm. Not to say that’s good or bad – not bragging, it’s just oddly calm. I started to think about why I might be responding this way, and the answer struck me. This feels oddly familiar for me, because I’m one of those people that has reset at various points throughout my life.
I had one major reset about 12 years ago that set me on this path I’m on now. I had no way of knowing that was where it was going to lead me, but all of this authenticity/confidence/purpose stuff that I’m talking about right now was a result of that reset.
It started in 2008. I had just been promoted to assistant vice president at this company I worked at. I was a corporate manager by day, and a working actor on my lunch break and by night (don’t ask me how I fit it all in). On the outside, I should have been happy because I was “successful.” On the inside, not so much. I could see where my life was going if I stayed on that path. “Success” was in my future, but internally was feeling like, “If I don’t change something, it’s going to be bad.”
So, I made the decision to hit the reset button. I quit my job. Again, I just been promoted to assistant vice president, and I quit my job. I quit acting. Like I said, I was very fortunate to be a working actor, but I quit acting. And for the next five years, I essentially sat in my apartment and meditated.
I thought about who I was. I thought about my life. I thought about my beliefs. I thought about painful experiences that I never processed. I thought about who I wanted to be. I thought about my gifts and talents and how I wanted to use them. That was the origin of what I’m teaching now. I didn’t know it at the time, but this was the process I was going through.
I got really clear about what I wanted my life to look like. It took me five years, which was very difficult for me. I’m somebody who loves achievement and accomplishment. I love going out and doing things and accomplishing goals, and for five years I had to “sit in my chair” – that’s the analogy I use. I felt like I was strapped to a chair, and every time I would try to get out of the chair, it was like, “No, Michelle. You’re sitting in the chair.” “But, I want to go do that!” “No, Michelle. You’re sitting in the chair.”
It was very challenging, but I would not change that experience for anything. It was the greatest gift that I have ever given myself. It’s because of that time of extreme introspection, of accumulating tools to process experience and emotion, to be intentional, to clarify and manifest and think about my purpose – that time set me on this path where I’m talking about all on this today.
Opportunities for reset can be scary, because you really have no map. They can be challenging, because all of our insecurities start to come up to the surface. But they can also be extremely beautiful experiences that can teach us a lot about who we are and who we want to be. And they can set us on a completely different path if we allow it to happen.
So, I want to throw this question out to you: when have you reset? Often when we’re going through a challenging time in our life, we start to question our confidence in our abilities. But I’m sure that you have gone through times of reset in your life before.
- What was that reset for you?
- What was the before and the after?
- What did you learn about yourself?
- How did you get through it, and what did you learn that you continue to use post-reset?